I’m used to anyone coming up to me and striking up a conversation whether it may be about the DJ playing, my outfit, or rave life in general. In fact, I love it when people come up to talk to me because that means I have a friendly aura. On the flip side, there’s also the chance that a guy comes up to me because he thinks I’m single and wants to flirt with me. I’ve had some pretty weird experiences with guys hitting on me at events, but one of the weirdest moments was at San Jose State’s Jack Yo Lantern. I was dancing and having a good time when a guy came up to me, took my hand, and said that I looked good in my outfit. Figuring it’s just a friendly remark I thanked him, but then he told me to copy what he was doing. His weird hip thrusting and arm motions in the air was a little to much for me, so I just started laughing and lightly nudged him away. He then asked why I didn’t want to dance with him and I pointed to my boyfriend. He backed off, but I overheard him telling my boyfriend, “If that’s your girl, if that’s really your girl, I wanna see you tear that ass up.” To be honest, I was a little freaked out; who even says stuff like that?!
Once we got home my boyfriend told me that he was upset that I was supposedly ‘flirting’ with another guy right in front of him. At first I was legitimately surprised by his accusation, but then I realized that he doesn’t know what we’re talking about. All my boyfriend sees is his girlfriend and another guy talking, hand contact, and the weird dance movements. Of course he’s going to think something is up, he’s a guy. Then my boyfriend continued saying how it bothered him that I flirted with other guys even while I was standing next to him.
Now, hold up. I’ve ALWAYS talked to random people at events! Just because I’m talking to a guy doesn’t mean I’m flirting with him! I can understand how difficult it is to distinguish between flirting or being friendly at a rave because everyone is so damn friendly all the time, but that’s what I also love about raves: we’re naturally friendly people and want to give out the good vibes to others as well.
So how can we really distinguish the difference between flirting and being friendly at a rave?
Ran into an old friend at Crush SF! Met this cool cat at Beyond Wonderland (NorCal 2013) and have been running into him at events ever since! Whoever said talking to strangers was bad is wrong! They make great friends too
One solution: Stop assuming everyone is flirting with you. It’s not being conceited if you think someone is flirting with you at an event, but if you keep thinking that the entire world is hitting on you at a rave, you’re in the wrong place. A rave is a place where you’re surrounded by friends that you haven’t met yet. Ravers, being some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet, are ALWAYS more than happy to meet new people! In the raving world we’re all about PLUR and therefore are comfortable with being ourselves around strangers without having the need to worry about being judged. That’s why I’m not afraid to go up to anyone and strike up a conversation with anybody, not just boys! I like to pay girls compliments on their outfits whether it may be cute or creative or if someone is feeling the same vibe from me during a certain artist I give them a high five. These small gestures could indicate flirting for others, but 90% of the time IT’S NOT FLIRTING.
Met this pretty unicorn at POPNYE 2014 and had to run up to tell her how pretty she looked
A second solution: if you’re genuinely interested in someone that you’ve met at a rave, make sure to grab their info and hit them up afterwards for a cup of coffee; just do something outside of a rave without the worry that the other person is intoxicated. A rave is a place where people come and express who they really are, but sometimes that doesn’t correlate to how they really are in real life as well. Once I met a guy at a rave who seemed interested in me; we danced, talked a bit, and exchanged numbers. So once we met outside of a rave and got to know him a little better, I began to like him a lot. But here’s the catch: his girlfriend of 5-years broke up with him a couple months ago and he started raving to try to get over that. After a series of drama and him eventually reuniting with his ex, I vowed to never date a guy I met at a rave ever again. This isn’t always the case though! I’ve met plenty of rave couples that met at a rave and have healthy relationships, props to you guys! It’s possible to meet the love of your life at an event, but the real test is when you’re outside of an event.
Again, there isn’t anything wrong with flirting, just don’t go overboard where the other person could consider it harassment. I admit that I’m not very good at noticing when someone is flirting with me or not, but how else do we make friends at events? Compliments! Compliments are how we meet on another whether it may be because of our taste in music, outfits, or kandi.
There isn’t a definite way to pinpoint whether or not someone is flirting or being friendly with you at an event. The only way you will know is by asking the person or just going with the flow. Remember: don’t take everything so seriously at events. Let loose and have fun meeting great people! Even if someone was flirting with you, take it as a compliment, who doesn’t like getting compliments?!
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The Ultimate Guide to Bass Camp Music Festival
Summer music festival season is upon us, and for us ravers, Bass Camp Music Festival in Reno, Nevada is an event not to be missed. Here's what you need to know about this exciting festival!
The Bassics
Bass Camp Music Festival is a multi-day event that takes place annually in Truckee River, Reno, Nevada. The festival features a diverse lineup of EDM artists, including both established names and up-and-coming talent. Bass Camp Music Festival typically takes place in August.
The Lineup
This year's Bass Camp has a stacked lineup of some of the best acts in the scene today. With headlining sets from Deadmau5 and Madeon as well as sets from supporting acts like Atrak, Ghastly, and Walker & Royce to name a few, this fest is all about diversity and celebrating the best there is in dance music! Check out the full lineup below.
Bass Camp Music Festival
Bass Camp Music Festival is known for its welcoming and inclusive atmosphere. The festival attracts a diverse crowd of EDM fans from all over the country. Attendees can expect to see a wide variety of outfits and styles, from vibrant rave attire to more casual festival wear.
In addition to the music, Bass Camp Music Festival offers a variety of experiences for attendees. The festival features multiple stages, allowing attendees to explore different sounds and genres. There are also a variety of food and drink vendors, as well as merchandise booths.
Getting There
Bass Camp Music Festival takes place at the beautiful Hard Rock Hotel & Casino in Reno, Nevada. The hotel offers a variety of amenities, including multiple restaurants, bars, and a casino.
For those attending from out of town, Bass Camp Music Festival offers a variety of accommodations. The Hard Rock Hotel & Casino offers rooms at a discounted rate for festival-goers. There are also a variety of other hotels and Airbnbs in the area.
Tickets
Tickets for Bass Camp Music Festival typically go on sale several months in advance. Prices vary depending on the type of ticket and when you purchase it. Early bird tickets are usually the most affordable, but they also sell out quickly. VIP tickets are also available for those looking for a more exclusive experience. Right now you can get 3-day tickets for $275, and single day tickets for $99. Get tickets here!
What to Wear to Bass Camp Music Festival
Bass Camp is in the mountains, so it can get cold at night. Dress in fits that can be layered for the heat of the day and the chill of the late night. Add things like pashminas and light jackets or chaps that are versatile but still cute! These are some of my fav pieces that I would wear to Bass Camp Music Festival.
U Could Never Halter Bodysuit with Leg Garters
Ignite My Fire Lace Up Crop Top
After-Parties
After the festival ends each night, there are a variety of after-parties to choose from. These events take place at various venues in the Reno area and often feature surprise guests and special performances.
Bass Camp Music Festival is a must-do event for any ravers in the area. With a diverse lineup, welcoming atmosphere, and variety of experiences, it's no wonder that this festival has become a staple of the summer music festival season. If you're looking for a memorable and fun-filled weekend, be sure to check out Bass Camp Music Festival in Reno, Nevada.